I don’t really know (lol). Of course the answer to this depends on who you ask, people have different wants and needs so what I hold important for me might not mean much to another person. I talked to a friend a couple of weeks back and she told me that her husband’s idea of spending time with their kids is him being in the same room with them as he fiddles with his laptop and the kids playing on their own. I told her I’ve heard that before. To me just because a husband/father works a 9 to 5 job and brings home the income of the family doesn’t mean he’s a good father, a good provider maybe but a good father doesn’t just provide material things for his children. Giving your daughter or son a new toy is a lot less important than giving your daughter or son your time, and being on the same room with them doing something else is NOT spending time with them. I know how tiring a full time job can be to a person, I used to work too before I had my little girl so I know how that feels. I don’t think it’s an excuse though, tired or not there’s a little person who waited for you all day to arrive to show you his or her awesome drawing of the family…how do you think that person will feel if you tell her or him that you’re tired? Having quality time with your children to me is important for their well being. A child needs to feel that he or she is loved, that what she can do and what is happening to her matters. No amount of fancy toys can replace the much needed attention a child needs from his or her parents. I know of fathers who are addicted to their own hobbies and interests to the point that they don’t do anything else during their free time, I think that’s unacceptable. I don’t care if you are level 80 in Warcraft or their is a big battle going live in a minutes when your child needs something you get up that freaking chair and go get it. Nanay: Dede daw si bunso (yelling from the other room carrying the crying child which obviously stops her from getting the said dede). Tatay: Ikaw na may laban ako ngayon (Sige nga tama ba to?????). I guess to me a good father is someone who shares the responsibility of raising the children with his wife and not just pay the bills and considers himself free of the other responsibilities.
So if you are a father and your wife tells you to spend more time with your children they are not being such a nagging wife…that means you are to busy to realize you’re not there for them….and your children needs you. Even if you pay for everything they have, they still need “YOU.”
