Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding – the Married Life.

What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?

Next month it will be nine years since hubby and I first met. You see we’ve been exchanging emails, text messages and talking on the phone months before we actually met. There was on formal courtship, we just agreed that we will go steady the day we finally met face to face. I would say the courtship happened after that. It was the only time I did something like that, and almost nine years later I wouldn’t change a thing.

What really is life after the wedding? The marriage part. The married life.
For me it was going back to reality. Preparing the wedding was fun, exciting and stressful all at the same time. It took me a year to prepare for the wedding with the help of a full time wedding planner. After all the wedding stuff were put away and my gown safely kept in storage, the reality of being married sets in.

After our honeymoon we found out I was pregnant. It took me by surprise, I know I wanted to have a baby but I didn’t know it would come so QUICKLY. We didn’t even wait, it was like “okay let’s have a baby” then bam! I’m pregnant! Who knew we could make a baby that fast?! Certainly not us! We were suppose to go to New Zealand and Korea that year as part of our three country honeymoon, that didn’t happen because after the first country we went to I was already PREGNANT. Although I was surprised I was really HAPPY. It was life changing but a welcomed change. So a month after I got married I got pregnant, nine months after than I became a mommy. You see everything changed so quickly for me. I was working then I quit to take care of the baby, another huge decision, one that I’ll always be grateful I did. It was a blessing that I have such a great husband (that’s why I married him in the first place, lol), he was there for me every step of the way. So I guess that was the start of our married life.

So….
If Iyah is to marry, I’d give her my advice (and hopefully words of wisdom)…
1. You have to prepare yourself for the married life, not just the wedding.
2. You should enter marriage, knowing who you are and loving yourself for who you are. You shouldn’t let the other person dictate who you will be and what you will become.

3. Married life is not a bed of roses. There will be hard times. There will be fights, tears and heartaches. The two of you should work together to make the marriage work. Make decisions together. Talk to each other. Understand each other. A call to los angeles flower every once in a while for that beautiful bouquet of tulips is also welcomed.

4. Little acts of love are always appreciated. Don’t forget to say I LOVE YOU to your husband everyday.